I gather from some of the spam, abuse and trolling I have had on my RR sites since they were created in 2012 to remember my mum, that some followers are here for the personal information and not the outdoor content. I have tried and failed to signpost those people to the news section of my personal website since early 2014, so, very reluctantly I am posting this here on my blog, a paid for website which I hope is accessible to all.
Feel free to ignore this post if it doesn’t interest you, but trolls should realise that no amount of online stalking, trolling or spamming will make the following post any less true, or will prevent me from reporting offenders.
Stephanie (Rose) 🌹
From 2000 – 2009, while my mother was terminally ill, I tried to clarify whether I could help the police and to report several crimes including an underage assault, firstly via a solicitor who did not have my best interests at heart, then via my brother who would not take my calls, and finally via a friend acting as a go between with the police. Shortly before my mother passed away in 2009, my go-between’s Facebook messages were hacked. The net result of all this was that nothing was resolved while my mother was alive and a ton of evidence, involving several separate cases, went unreported. Following my mother’s death, there was little incentive for me to become further involved with these cases, most of which should have come to light long ago, and in 2012 I created this blog to remember her amidst the devastation.
Anyway, I am gradually reporting some of the things I was prevented from reporting when my mother was alive in writing, as I feel able, including the underage rape. Although I have had absolutely no feedback on most of these reports, 2019 ended on a real low as I received the predictable news that the rape has not been crimed by Northumbria Police, meaning that not one prosecution has resulted from any of the reports I have made to this force since I was 12 years old (including two assaults and two rapes).
It seems to follow the same format each time I report anything from when I was a child. Northumbria Police firstly pathologizes me, then isolates me from my main witnesses or corroborators, sometimes for years, and seems to harvest them for information about me. In the meantime the accused says any old rubbish and the case is dropped. I have been through this routine before and am beginning to feel as if there is a formula at work.
As I have said to the investigating officer, depriving abuse survivors of contact with anyone who might support their allegation is a barbaric practice, which results in much unnecessary suffering for victims who don’t understand why they can’t speak to their closest family or friends, and that in turn results in failure to report other crimes. My own experiences (detailed on my personal website) are testimony to this.
I have begun to feel that it is just not worth the hurt and upset to keep making allegations which are not progressed or lost, so it is unlikely I will report any further cases to this force. I try to remain positive by kidding myself that people read the news posts on my website, and that they are accessible to all.
From a post on stephaniehakin.com dated December 8th 2019.